I realize that my post below is a little anti-adoption. I’m not anti-adoption at all. I know plenty of people who have been adopted, who have adopted, who plan to adopt. I think it’s a wonderful thing.
It just scares me.
I’m afraid of finding the perfect kid, falling in love with him/her, and then things not working out with the adoption for some reason. I know this doesn’t happen all the time (I really have no idea how often), but I don’t know if I could handle it. The thought of someone taking away Owen, for instance, makes me want to just curl up and die.
That fear is one of the biggest reasons I don’t think it’s in the cards for us. I think we have a pretty good shot at IVF working, and I think I need to put the money we’re scrounging up into that. I guess I can’t explain exactly why. It just is.
The strange thing is, nobody ever asks a woman who announces she’s trying to get pregnant why she doesn’t just adopt. I guess it’s kosher to ask if someone is infertile, though??
By the way, I hate the word infertile. I prefer “having fertility problems.” That way it seems less permanent.
Seeking a Sibling 